Three reasons and two solutions to tackle this problem

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Waking up in a narcissist-controlled environment means never knowing what’s going to happen next. Maybe they decide to move, quit their job, or get into a senseless argument with their neighbor just before breakfast is ready.

Children of narcissists never experience stability, all they do is maneuver their way from one situation to another in order to escape the next major havoc.

Indian mystic Osho once said that humanity begins when basic needs are met. What he meant is that as long as one faces existential threats, all higher virtues are on the back burner. …


I wrote down every sentence, every word that popped into my head

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You would assume that for an hour long meditation there would be nothing to write about — not exactly the case. Today, I’ve decided to wiretap my mind and give you a full transcript of a 1-hour meditation session. Could this be useful for you? If you’re meditating already, you may use it as a reference — if you’re just starting out, see what it’s all about. So check it out.

Let me first give you a quick background on why I still insist on silencing my mind

I’ve been meditating for more than 15 years now, and I can’t think of a single more important thing in my life than my meditation practice. …


If you’re caught up in distractions, then you’re probably chasing happiness. Here’s what you can do.

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Do you know the fear that arises when you think about how much time you’ve wasted? You only have so much time in your life, and the watch’s ticking — mercilessly. Second by second. You look back and it has been another week, another month, and too often another year. And all you have to show for it is a few problems solved, maybe some great nights out with your friends, a holiday with your family.

According to those who ponder the shortness of time, they all want to do meaningful things in their life so that they can look…


A deep dive into a devastating control mechanism

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Since narcissists see their children as nothing but an extension of themselves, they will do everything in their power to sabotage their development into independent adults. Anything that even remotely resembles a fully-functioning human being will be obstructed from an early age.

Because independence means their children’s eventual departure, and departure means loss of control, they will do everything in their power to stop that. They’d rather have their children develop a lifelong dependency than see them succeed on their own.

➤How narcissists perceive their children

The only time when narcissists would want to see their children succeed is if they were to gain direct…


What Trump represents will not be gone any time soon

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America’s voting and the world is watching. I can’t think of another election that raised eyebrows like the current campaign. An open exchange of blows from both sides, which didn’t go unnoticed — even here in Europe.

The Trump vs. Hillary campaign was huge, but the latest Trump vs. Biden is fiercer than anything we’ve ever seen before. America has a big entertainment industry, but this one is bigger than any blockbuster movie.

When Trump announced he would be running for president back in 2015, it was the first time I had heard of him since the 1980s. Yes, no…


How losing the moment of inspiration can cost you dearly

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What’s more painful for an artist than to lose a great idea? Just recently I saw a David Lynch interview where he said he always writes down his ideas immediately, because if he doesn’t, he loses them forever. But he seems to be a quick learner — he’s only lost a couple of ideas so far.

How much I still underestimate the power of inspiration. That thing that happens just out of the blue. …


A reaction to a response I got here on Medium

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“This is the danger of giving unqualified people a platform [Medium] to say whatever they want, about whatever they want.”

When this response appeared under one of my articles, I couldn’t but wonder why some people fear reading about different viewpoints on a particular subject? They fear it to such an extent that they wish the article or writer were prohibited from talking about it. A stance like that can’t but make me think about totalitarian regimes where one may end up in solitary confinement for life for saying something that doesn’t align with the rulers’ “guidelines”.

To punish people…


Lifehacks

Internet shopping has turned into a nightmare

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I don’t know about you guys, but shopping for home appliances, be it a vacuum, computer, or UPS system has turned into a nightmare for me. Every time a device dies — more or less unexpectedly — I just blow up. And it’s not a money issue; it’s a Google issue.

Of course, having money for new equipment is always a matter, but in the past 10 years, the importance of it is being taken over by this small little thing we call — choice.

Every good retailer who operates in a physical store knows that giving a customer too…


And why even their good genes cannot protect them

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Since their mainstream appearance in the 1970s, genes have been blamed for virtually everything: Our inherited musical ear, our beautiful and not so beautiful body features, and especially our illnesses — all products of our genetic code, a “predetermined” life controlled by this invisible hand.

It took only a few years to convince people that they are not in charge of their destiny anymore. Bad hair, bad teeth, great eyes, perfect cheek — you have it or you don’t. …


This is what my 22-year business experience has taught me

You think 17 minutes is a long reading time? This article could help gain back years of your life. A 22-year experience of business relationships revealed to me: Choosing the right people is paramount to any business, spotting the wrong ones, even more so. Neglecting that may cost you everything — from health to career.

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The idea behind a partnership is simple: Let each of us do what we do best, and as a result achieve more than we would have done on our own. …

Alen M. Vukelić

I write about the resistance to change, the unwillingness to take risks, and paralysis of indecision — only the good stuff.

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