They may be valid for all ages — if you’re late to the party

No, you don’t have time.

This is urgent.

Because, as you probably know by now, once you’re in your 20s, time starts to accelerate. Why?

Two reasons.

First — habituation.

The days of wondering what a cat, a seashell, or a washing machine are are over. The fun moments of…


Three reasons and two solutions to tackle this problem

Waking up in a narcissist-controlled environment means never knowing what’s going to happen next. Maybe they decide to move, quit their job, or get into a senseless argument with their neighbor just before breakfast is ready.

Children of narcissists never experience stability, all they do is maneuver their way from…


I wrote down every sentence, every word that popped into my head

You would assume that for an hour long meditation there would be nothing to write about — not exactly the case. Today, I’ve decided to wiretap my mind and give you a full transcript of a 1-hour meditation session. Could this be useful for you? If you’re meditating already, you…


If you’re caught up in distractions, then you’re probably chasing happiness. Here’s what you can do.

Do you know the fear that arises when you think about how much time you’ve wasted? You only have so much time in your life, and the watch’s ticking — mercilessly. Second by second. You look back and it has been another week, another month, and too often another year…


A deep dive into a devastating control mechanism

Since narcissists see their children as nothing but an extension of themselves, they will do everything in their power to sabotage their development into independent adults. Anything that even remotely resembles a fully-functioning human being will be obstructed from an early age.

Because independence means their children’s eventual departure, and…


What Trump represents will not be gone any time soon

America’s voting and the world is watching. I can’t think of another election that raised eyebrows like the current campaign. An open exchange of blows from both sides, which didn’t go unnoticed — even here in Europe.

The Trump vs. Hillary campaign was huge, but the latest Trump vs. Biden


How losing the moment of inspiration can cost you dearly

What’s more painful for an artist than to lose a great idea? Just recently I saw a David Lynch interview where he said he always writes down his ideas immediately, because if he doesn’t, he loses them forever. …


A reaction to a response I got here on Medium

“This is the danger of giving unqualified people a platform [Medium] to say whatever they want, about whatever they want.”

When this response appeared under one of my articles, I couldn’t but wonder why some people fear reading about different viewpoints on a particular subject? They fear it to such…


Lifehacks

Internet shopping has turned into a nightmare

I don’t know about you guys, but shopping for home appliances, be it a vacuum, computer, or UPS system has turned into a nightmare for me. Every time a device dies — more or less unexpectedly — I just blow up. …


And why even their good genes cannot protect them

Since their mainstream appearance in the 1970s, genes have been blamed for virtually everything: Our inherited musical ear, our beautiful and not so beautiful body features, and especially our illnesses — all products of our genetic code, a “predetermined” life controlled by this invisible hand.

It took only a few…

Alen M. Vukelić

I write about the resistance to change, the unwillingness to take risks, and paralysis of indecision — only the good stuff.

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